Man and Marriage: Only Two Paths are Available!

Man and marriage is an article about the two paths available to all of us – men especially – when it comes to the topic of marriage.

Depending on your viewpoint, marriage is either given or chosen (self-made). To clarify, we use two simple analogies:

1. BETHROTHED: Think of marriage as a divine contract that was made in a world from which all souls existed, before coming into their human lives on Earth. Getting married to one’s given partner (or the bone of your bone as some call it) therefore becomes a fulfillment of that divine arrangement which clearly furthers a divine agenda.

If you choose to marry outside the heaven-made contract, you would be disrupting so many things which makes you a reckless soul, a prodigal fool in the divine scheme of things. Face it, your father is the King of a highly glorified heavenly kingdom and you’ve been billed to marry a certain Princess for the unification of two or more Kingdoms on Earth but you have just decided to marry against your father and King’s wish?

You can assume you didn’t know about this divinely arranged marriage part of the master-plan before you were given your human body. Your ignorance, assumption or pretense could be easily proven to be false, if one or both of you was given a revelation about the divine moment of your betrothal or the purpose for it. Then you must choose whether to bring shame upon yourself as a wayward Prince who doubles as a sentimental fool or a honorable heir who puts self and personal sentiments aside for the glory of his family’s divine agenda.

In this picture of marriage, it’s not about you and so, you are married as a missionary. Your marriage is an official assignment with a specific agenda to fulfill. It won’t matter what sort of a jerk your spouse happens to be if it was divinely orchestrated, your duty is to find the meaning of success that fits your marriage contract.

Who knows maybe your marriage exists to prove that these two souls cannot be fulfilled in marriage if allowed to bond as a couple on Earth?! In a nutshell, I’m saying, a divine agent cannot make decisions based on guesses or what feels right. You must be very sure about it. Then you decide!

• 2. FINDING MISS RIGHT: Here is a marriage where you marry who you want, based on personal preference, and deal with it thereafter. A marriage that was never predetermined by heaven since it wasn’t highlighted as a special part of your present human journey. There is freedom isn’t it?

Marriage however is a life-path determiner and often times, a life-path changer. This remains true whether it was divinely chosen for you or not. Despite that Heaven did not point anyone out to you as the right woman, you can still end up with Miss Wrong. Then you’re in trouble because of the depth of mutual-good or shared-evil that a marriage seem to spread out between a couple. A soul-blending that is quite hard to wish away.

You can’t just run out of that self-made marriage. You will forever be held responsible, hence culpable should you breed any form of failure that would later threaten the wellness of society or fellow humans such as your spouse, relatives or children through your parental abandonment.

If you had the luxury of marrying the kind of wife you thought you wanted, the onus rests on you to appreciate the woman who accepts and chooses to fill that role for you. What does this means in a self-made marriage situation? It means you can actually cherry-pick your bride-to-be from selecting her eye-colour to the whiteness of her teeth and to how she talks to you. You can create your kind of wife out of that woman because she is willing to become whatever it is you want for her to be. How lucky you are!

But when that woman finally shows up in your life who meets your criteria, you would suffer greatly if you make the mistake of failing to appreciate her. It is you who manifested her into your life, and with her agreement, you have created her. To abandon her is unacceptable and you would get divine beatings for failing to cater for your asset or liability. Your choice, your responsibility!

Now that we have covered the two paths before every Man in Marriage, here are a few things I hope you understood as clearly as I would expect of myself:

• That the one who receives his wife as a gift from God only has to relate with God as his Divine Father-In-Law and Father. Such a person must stay loyal and faithful to his matrimonial calling so that he does not become a ceremonial failure at last.

• That one whose Father-In-Law God is, has a duty to please God in his marriage and such a person would never cease to get help with anything pertaining to his marriage since his marriage is a God-sponsored errand. These person’s marriages are materially funded by God through His chosen channels.

• That one who whose marriage is divinely orchestrated has no need to seek matrimonial happiness, even if his partner is clearly being a pain in the heart. He only needs to uphold his obedience to whatever God demands and decides for the marriage, making sure his leadership decisions emanate from God.

• But that Man whose marriage has proceeded from his personal choice will never be able to escape any of his responsibilities towards his wife, which begins with showing her his matrimonial vision, to actively playing his part in making that dream or vision a reality. This man will not be pardoned if he fails on his part to make or shape his spouse into his envisioned or dreamed wife. For if he has married wrongly, it’s his choice and duty to make amends or repent from his errors, making sure to avoid such errors if he ever has another opportunity.

• That no Man is permitted to mistreat his woman under the guise of her being wayward, lest he himself be judged as wayward in the Presence of the living God!

What do you think of these things? Kindly leave me a comment below. Thanks!