A Soul-Searching Questionnaire for Men Who Father
“Are You Raising Children… or Training Servants of Your Ego?”
As a man raised with tough love by a disciplinarian dad, I know firsthand the impact of fatherly care and attention. I remember hating the iron hand I was raised with as a teenager. But as I crossed into maturity, I could value nothing more than Dad’s tough love. Later, as I became a dad myself, I began to see the other depths of fatherhood and its role towards the children we raise.
- ✅ Am I fathering from love or ego?
- ✅ Are we seeing our sons as heirs, and our daughters as property?
- ✅ Have we broken the “provider-only” parenting habit and fear-based fatherhood?
This test is adapted from themes of male authority, projection, emotional distance, legacy obsession, and power roles. To help men, dads, and father-figures discover their true status.
Instructions: Answer with soberness. This test is not a judgment — it is a deep reflection. Your answers can free you from decades of inherited illusions and spare your children silent wounds. Be honest — not idealistic. Nobody else is watching.
This post is NOT the TEST — it prepares you for the TEST, but if YOU wish to BEGIN immediately, click here to start:
🔹 SECTION A: How You See Your Son
- I want my son to respect me — even if I’ve never earned that respect by how I live or treat others.
- I would rather my son fear me than question me.
- I’ve trained my son to obey, but I’ve not taken time to connect with him emotionally.
- I ignore signs of emotional struggle in him because “boys will be boys” or “he’ll toughen up.”
- I feel jealous or uncomfortable if my son becomes closer to his mother than to me.
There are 3 Sections in this TEST — each with 10 Questions. Take the real TEST to see how differently you’ll start to feel about yourself as a mother, Start NOW
🔹 SECTION B: How You See Your Daughter
- I’ve warned my daughter about men, but never taught her how to truly understand and heal from male dysfunction.
- I give my daughter love and money, but not emotional safety or deep time.
- I rarely apologize to my daughter, because I see it as a weakness/unnecessary.
- I am uncomfortable with my daughter being independent, especially if it means she doesn’t “need” me.
🔍 How to Use This Test
🧾 SCORING: You will score yourself. No, your sincere responses will score you.
Count how many statements you resonated with or marked as TRUE in each section:
- 0–3: You may be parenting with rising awareness. But keep checking yourself. Power corrupts subtly.
- 4–7: You may be leading from wounds, habits, or unexamined traditions. It’s time to re-learn fatherhood.
- 8–10: You may be using your children to fulfil unmet needs, fantasies, or fears. This pattern can become emotional abuse — even if unintentional. Radical healing is needed.
💬 Final Reflection:
“You are not just raising children. You are building their image of power, of love, and of Prime Father. What they see in you today may shape what they believe about themselves — forever.”
Dedicated to Every Mother!