Fatherhood Mirror Test

Fatherhood Mirror Test

For each statement, reflect deeply.
Choose:
✅ YES – This reflects my real thoughts or actions often.
🟡 MAYBE – Sometimes I think or behave this way.
❌ NO – This rarely reflects how I think or act.


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SECTION A: 🔐 My Inner Programming – What Drives Me

Choose the answer that best reflects how often this is true for you.

1. I often equate my worth with how much I provide, earn, or protect.
YES MAYBE NO
2. I feel like a failure when I’m not financially or physically in control.
YES MAYBE NO
3. I use work, religion or “responsibility” to escape my emotional pain or self-worth issues.
YES MAYBE NO
4. I struggle to receive help, correction or compassion from others.
YES MAYBE NO
5. Deep down, I don’t believe I am truly worthy of love unless I earn or prove it.
YES MAYBE NO

SECTION B: 👨‍👦 How You See Your Son

Answer honestly about how you view or treat your son (or young males you influence).

6. I want my son to respect me, even if I’ve never earned that respect by how I live or treat others.
YES MAYBE NO
7. I feel ashamed when my son shows vulnerability, especially if he cries or needs emotional support.
YES MAYBE NO
8. I would rather my son fear me than question me.
YES MAYBE NO
9. I want him to succeed so he can carry on my name, make me proud, or prove I was a good father.
YES MAYBE NO
10. I discipline my son more for disobedience than for disrespect.
YES MAYBE NO

SECTION C: 👧 How You See Your Daughter

Answer truthfully about your emotional connection or control dynamic with daughters or younger women.

11. I feel overly protective of my daughter, not just for safety, but also because I see her as “mine.”
YES MAYBE NO
12. I find it hard to accept my daughter’s maturity or sexuality, and would rather not hear about her emotions or relationships.
YES MAYBE NO
13. I get irritated when my daughter resists my authority, even when she’s becoming a woman with her voice.
YES MAYBE NO
14. I want my daughter to marry “well,” more than I want her to be whole and wise.
YES MAYBE NO
15. I’ve warned my daughter about men, but never taught her how to truly understand and heal herself from male dysfunction.
YES MAYBE NO
16. I give my daughter love and money, but not emotional safety or deep time.
YES MAYBE NO
17. I rarely apologise to my daughter, because I see it as a weakness.
YES MAYBE NO
18. I am uncomfortable with my daughter being independent, especially if it means she doesn’t “need” me.
YES MAYBE NO
19. I prefer that my daughter praises me rather than questions me.
YES MAYBE NO
20. I believe that being a “provider” is enough, and emotional presence is optional.
YES MAYBE NO

SECTION D: 🧠 Leadership, Legacy & Control

Now reflect on how your identity, ego, and leadership mindset affect your relationships.

21. I want to be obeyed at home, even if my family doesn't understand or agree with my decisions.
YES MAYBE NO
22. I want to be remembered as a strong man, even if I was emotionally distant or feared.
YES MAYBE NO
23. I rarely ask my children how they experience me, because I’m not ready to hear the answer.
YES MAYBE NO
24. I use silence, withdrawal, or anger to control conversations or punish disrespect.
YES MAYBE NO
25. I don’t believe my children can teach me anything — my job is to teach them.
YES MAYBE NO
26. I fear my children seeing my weaknesses, so I hide them and pretend to be always “in charge.”
YES MAYBE NO
27. I speak in commands more than I speak in conversation.
YES MAYBE NO
28. I would rather protect my reputation than confront my childhood wounds.
YES MAYBE NO
29. I use God, culture, or tradition to justify harshness or indifference in parenting.
YES MAYBE NO
30. I rarely check if I’m fathering from love… or from ego.
YES MAYBE NO
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