Fatherhood (Mirror of Motive) MoM — Test

Fatherhood Mirror Test

“Are You Raising Children… or Training Servants of Your Ego?”

A soul-searching reflection for fathers and father-figures seeking truth over tradition.

Instructions

Answer truthfully. This is not a test of right or wrong — it is a reflection mirror. Your honesty here can protect your legacy.

Answer options:

Always
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never

🔹 Section A: How You See Your Son

1. I want my son to respect me, even if I’ve never earned that respect by how I live or treat others. 2. I feel ashamed when my son shows vulnerability, especially if he cries or needs emotional support. 3. I would rather my son fear me than question me. 4. I want him to succeed so he can carry on my name, make me proud, or prove I was a good father. 5. I discipline my son more for disobedience than for disrespect. 6. I expect my son to be tough, even if I haven’t taught him how to process pain or grief. 7. I speak more about achievement to my son than about identity or self-awareness. 8. I’ve trained my son to obey, but I’ve not taken time to connect with him emotionally. 9. I ignore signs of emotional struggle in him because “boys will be boys” or “he’ll toughen up.” 10. I feel jealous or uncomfortable if my son becomes closer to his mother than to me.

🔹 Section B: How You See Your Daughter

11. I feel overly protective of my daughter, not just for safety, but also because I see her as “mine.” 12. I find it hard to accept my daughter’s maturity or sexuality, and would rather not hear about her emotions or relationships. 13. I get irritated when my daughter resists my authority, even when she’s becoming a woman with her voice. 14. I want my daughter to marry “well,” more than I want her to be whole and wise. 15. I’ve warned my daughter about men, but never taught her how to truly understand and heal herself from male dysfunction. 16. I give my daughter love and money, but not emotional safety or deep time. 17. I rarely apologise to my daughter, because I see it as a weakness. 18. I am uncomfortable with my daughter being independent, especially if it means she doesn’t “need” me. 19. I prefer that my daughter praises me rather than questions me. 20. I believe that being a “provider” is enough, and emotional presence is optional.

🔹 Section C: Leadership, Legacy & Control

21. I want to be obeyed at home, even if my family doesn't understand or agree with my decisions. 22. I want to be remembered as a strong man, even if I was emotionally distant or feared. 23. I rarely ask my children how they experience me, because I’m not ready to hear the answer. 24. I use silence, withdrawal, or anger to control conversations or punish disrespect. 25. I don’t believe my children can teach me anything — my job is to teach them. 26. I fear my children seeing my weaknesses, so I hide them and pretend to be always “in charge.” 27. I speak in commands more than I speak in conversation. 28. I would rather protect my reputation than confront my childhood wounds. 29. I use God, culture, or tradition to justify harshness or indifference in parenting. 30. I rarely check if I’m fathering from love… or from ego.

🧠 Final Step

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