A Soul-Revealing Questionnaire for Sincere Mothers
“What Kind of Future Are You Building Through Your Sons and Daughters?”
As mothers, we do our best to raise children to meet our standards and to surpass them. We want them to achieve all the great things we couldn’t — sometimes, even if the child doesn’t care about fulfilling our long-held dreams.
“Am I raising my children for who they are — or for who I am?”
From this point, anything can happen, and as parents, we don’t want to mistakenly mislead our lovely children. So, based on the themes of parental manipulation, power, protection, gender bias, and unconscious projection, we have decided to sincerely check ourselves first by using this test to:
- ✅ Reveal Hidden Parenting Patterns — behaviors’ like emotional control, gender bias, projection, guilt-tripping, and ego-driven parenting that many mothers deny or ignore.
- ✅ Break Generational Cycles — how past wounds, failed relationships, or cultural scripts get passed on to children and how a mother can project her lost dreams on a child.
- ✅ Shift Focus from Performance to Healing — from raising children who impress society to raising children who are conscious, healed, and free. Will they apologize when wrong, grow through honest reflection, and make better choices?
Instructions: Answer truthfully. No one will see your answers, but your soul will. This is not a test of good or bad — it is a reflection mirror. Be still. Be honest. Be free! But more importantly, by your sincerity in answering this test, you know you truly love your child.
This post is NOT the TEST — it prepares you for the TEST, but if YOU wish to BEGIN immediately, click here to start:
🔹 SECTION A: How You See Your Son
- I feel a deep need to protect my son from the world, even when he’s old enough to stand alone.
- I feel safer when my son is emotionally close to me than when he seeks independence.
- Deep down, I would prefer that my son always consults me before making life-changing decisions — even as an adult.
- When my son shows strength or dominance, I feel proud. When he shows vulnerability, I feel uncomfortable.
- I have used my son to meet emotional needs I didn’t get from his father or other men.
- I silently want my son to make up for a man who failed me — or to become the man I never had.
🔹 SECTION B: How You See Your Daughter
- I often expect her to obey out of fear or obligation, not out of love or understanding.
- I make her feel that she owes me her success, her love, or her loyalty — as if I own her future.
- I sometimes shame my daughter when she expresses desires or questions I’m not comfortable with.
- I have judged or punished my daughter for traits I secretly have but hide from others.
There are 3 Sections in this TEST — each with 10 Questions. Take the real TEST to see how differently you’ll start to feel about yourself as a mother, Start NOW
🔹 SECTION C: Parenting & Control
- I believe my children owe me their obedience, because I gave them life and raised them.
🔍 How to Use This Test
Count how many statements you marked as TRUE or resonant in each section:
- 0–3: You may be parenting consciously in this area. Stay alert. Be open to feedback from your children.
- 4–7: There are significant emotional projections shaping your parenting. Reflection and healing is needed.
- 8–10: You may be parenting from a place of deep unconscious need. Your children could be serving your ego more than you are serving their growth. Now is the time to seek transformation.
🧾 SCORING: You will score yourself. No, your sincere responses will score you.
💬 Final Reflection:
“You do not own your children. You are their first mirror — what they see in you may shape how they treat themselves and others. Heal what you reflect.”
Dedicated to Every Mother!